Rediscover calm, escape the cycle of chronic anxiety

Sometimes it’s just a low hum, underneath the surface, and sometimes it’s practically screaming at you, your mind racing all day long, cataloging all the things you need to do, all the things you forgot to do, and ugh, that nagging feeling that you’ve forgotten something really important.

We’ll practice nervous system regulation/grounding, so you can get out of your head and back into you body.

As an athlete and certified yoga instructor, I’m a huge believer in finding movement practices that feel good for your body, where you can breathe deeply and find both joy and relaxation.

That part of you that says you’re not good enough, or is constantly comparing yourself to others, keeps you stuck, keeps you from trying new things or putting yourself out there. How is it that despite all of your achievements, there is still a part that makes you feel small?

Together, we can identify and challenge negative thought patterns; get curious about how self-doubt is keeping you protected, and discover a more realistic and positive self-image. Inventory your strengths and reframe the idea of failure.

While burnout is typically thought of as the result of overwork or specific, persistent stress in the workplace, the existential aspect of burnout is a lack of meaning outside of one’s work or other roles. We will explore what used to bring you joy, before you had such a long list of to-dos. We live in a society that encourages overwork and sacrifice to the gods of capitalism over prioritizing our joy and overall health. We will learn and practice real self care: boundaries, compassion, values, and power.

You’ve heard that they’re important…but how? How do people really do boundaries. Like most advanced tasks, they take lots of practice. We will discern what feel like non-negotiables in your life, and how to gently and firmly say no. With somatic exploration of what feels like “yes” and “no” in your body, learn to set, and maintain your boundaries.

Anywhere you are in your relationship journey, there is generally a lot to process in individual therapy. We can bring more awareness to patterns or ways of communicating that no longer serve you, and any lingering anxieties within your relationship. We’ll discuss attachment styles, and how that might be impacting you and your partner (or potential partner).

Red flags, orange flags, yellow flags…we can address any of them and any boundaries that need to be made.

Whether you’re seeking relationship or in a committed relationship, we’ll identify your goals for therapy so you can understand how your past experiences might be impacting your current relationship struggles.

Parts work, or Internal Family Systems (IFS) is particularly helpful when working with the inner perfectionist or perfectionist tendencies. Perfection can really stop us in our tracks when we are working completing something, and there is usually a protective aspect to this way.

Perfection can be a way to attempt to avoid that catastrophe from happening…but it often just creates impossible standards for you. We will cultivate self-compassion and strengthen the parts that understand that mistakes are not just okay, they are the path to learning.

Perfection can be super sneaky…so together we can uncover the ways it is preventing you from achieving what you actually want.

We’ll explore the early experiences that might have contributed to your particular attachment style to provide greater insight into your current relational patterns. It’s never too late to form secure attachment and stop the cycle of avoidance; we’ll learn the ways that you can tap into your innate vulnerability to deepen your connections with others and transform your fear of intimacy into trust.

We will hone your communications skills so that you can clearly and confidently communicate your needs and express your emotions without fear of rejection.

At its heart, people-pleasing work is often grounded in identity work. How well do you know yourself? How can pleasing others become a defense against actualizing your own needs and desires. Because fulfilling others’ needs can be satisfying to a degree, but it cuts us off from our intuition, authenticity, and our deeper meaning on this earth. Fulfilling your own needs first is the true path to caring for others.

It’s important to remember that none of our struggles were created in a vacuum–we all experienced a unique set of challenges based on our upbringing that set patterns for our attachment style, and laid the foundations for how seen and understood we feel as an adult.

It’s possible that some of our most challenging interactions happen within our family of origin–this is normal and common, and there is hope to evolve these interactions so that our family can finally see us as the actualized adult that we are (and hope to be).